Insecure. Inadequate. Unworthy.
You feel unhappy with yourself, ashamed of who you are and the decisions you’ve made. You don’t like the person you see in the mirror. You criticize yourself for just about anything.
It feels safer to withdraw from the world. You’re afraid of failing and don’t want others to see you mess up.
You want to be “good” and “worthy.” But you find yourself focusing on all the things you don’t like about yourself.
You know you’re supposed to love yourself but can’t seem to figure out how.
Spending all day with someone you don’t really like makes everything a challenge. Questioning yourself and having unrealistic expectations for how you show up day to day just makes for more disappointment and anxiety.
Living life this way takes a toll.
It can have negative effects on your social life, your relationships, your job performance, and your physical and mental health.
You know that if you keep this up, you’ll miss out on living a full, happy life, but you can’t seem to fix it.
Truth is, if you allow yourself space to heal your relationship with yourself, drastic change is possible. With the right guide, you can discover a healthy, fulfilling relationship with the one and only YOU that supports you each day, rather than continually abuses you.
Why do we have poor self-esteem?
Our image of ourselves begins forming in early childhood, even infancy. We develop core beliefs about who we are versus who we are “supposed to be” through all different sources as we develop. Our life experiences impact these views, too. We may develop one or several negative ideas about ourselves that follow us around all day telling us we are not enough.
When you’re believing these things about yourself, this becomes what you present to the world and these views get reinforced along the way.
Therapy helps to examine these negative beliefs about yourself, exploring how they originated and how they were reinforced. We take it a step further to find ways of changing those negative messages so you can create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with yourself built with kindness.
You find acceptance and compassion for all the different parts of you.
When you show compassion to yourself, you open up space for compassion with others. You begin to feel more connected and purposeful. You see your humanness as well as the humanness of others. You become less critical, which may bring a sense of worthiness, acceptance, and appreciation for you and those around you.
You recognize that you ARE enough, no matter what!
And with therapy, you have the support you need to make these changes- challenging unhelpful beliefs and modifying how you feel about yourself and how you show up in this world.
If you are ready to build a healthy relationship with yourself, I am ready to help you along that path.
If you’re wondering if you deserve a change, consider this as your first homework assignment: Reach out. I know it’s hard, but you DO deserve a better way of living- and I am ready to help you get there.
Reach out below and let’s get started!